Category Archives: Mutual Posts

A quick update on the Witt case

Both Tiffany and I would like to thank our readers for sending us some fabulous links and information regarding Maj. Witt’s case. And, it’s nice to know that we’re not the only people outraged that most news headlines refer to Maj. Witt as nothing more than a ‘lesbian’, ‘Tacoma lesbian’, or ‘gay nurse’. One reader suggested we look at the blog that The ACLU of Washington State has been filing from the courtroom. A link to ACLU’s trial brief (if you’re into those kinds of things) can be found here. The ACLU also has a link to The Daily Kos and their coverage of the story.

And, once again, our local news disappoints with the following headline ‘Trial opens for Tacoma lesbian seeking return to military‘ and equally disappointing non-informative story.

Thanks again, everyone!

Tad and Tiffany



A Couple of Homos taking back the H-word

Both Tad and I believe that being, really being yourself is super important to mental, physical and spiritual development and general well-being these days; just as it always has been. To a certain degree, we also highly approve of so-called marginalized communities, minorities or whatever we wish to call them re-owning certain derogatory words if we eventually wish to no longer be so-called marginalized communities, bla, bla, bla…

I, Tiffany, am a person of color. It has been my experience that people have never understood why some black people might sometimes refer to themselves using the N- word. It’s a word we all deplore, but somehow, used by the right person, is possibly empowering; in this case African-Americans. It’s the same with gays and certain words. The word ‘queer’ being one of those words. Generally speaking, the very word that formerly would have hurt us and destroyed our sense of self (being called a ‘queer’ by either a mean straight person or another closeted self-hating ‘queer’) is now empowering to gay activists and to gay people. To many gay people, the use of the word ‘queer’ has become fairly normalized in everyday gay speech. Queer is even considered a gender these days, believe it or not. As far as your resident homos are concerned, ‘queer’ is a term Tiffany personally prefers to gay or lesbian, but one that Tad does not. To each their own.

This preference for re-empowering one’s self through language is what occurred to Tad and I when we started this blog space. We like the term ‘homo’ for all of its possible derogatoriness and reference to filth (but, don’t you see, we enjoy being perverts!). It’s our word, and it describes us, and it’s another opportunity for us to take back the discriminatory night and use the word to illustrate who we are. That said, we don’t appreciate it when gay people proudly refer to themselves as ‘queer’ (or any other word for that matter) while in the company of other gay people, but take it upon themselves to act offended when they hear other people using the same word in exactly the same context they themselves happily use it in. Seriously, there is no need to act so catty and precious! We are not undermining the potential for almost any word to be offensive, but context, meaning, and intention are everything. So, thanks to all of you for your understanding!

Very kind regards,

Tiffany and Tad